Taken from the book: Man’s search for meaning
Taken from the book: Man’s search for meaning
Pretty women come with a tax very few men can pay
“Whenever you want to get married you ask first about her deen or her beauty? The person with ‘ilm asks about her beauty first and if her looks impresses him he then asks about her deen, and if her deen also impresses him they get married. Brothers nowadays flipped it. He asked about deen first and he was impressed.
But then when he took a look at her he was disappointed, rejected her, and thus fell into contradiction to the hadeeth because it is not permissible to reject a sister who has good character and deen. So to avoid falling into this problem you should ask about her beauty first. And I advise all men not to go after very pretty women because they come with a tax – and only Allah knows – very few men can pay.”
Shaykh Mashoor fatwa session (July 20, 2018)
Hamza Yusuf’s article: https://renovatio.zaytuna.edu/article/when-does-a-human-fetus-become-human
THE EGYPTIAN HADEETH GIANT WHO WROTE A BOOK ON EVERY TOPIC
Imam Al-Suyuti wrote a sex manual entitled “Nawadir Al-Ayk” as an appendix to a longer book on the benefits of marriage called “Al-Wishah min Fawa’id al-Nikah.”
In [it] he lists sex positions – including more than 48 various on laying down, on one’s side, seated, standing, and on one’s knees. He also mentions techniques for delaying orgasm and different ways to move the penis. He also discusses female orgasm and affirms that women like different things. He also includes a how-to for pleasurable sex.
The Imam also opined the best sex manual was “Tuhfat al-’Arus wa-Nuzhat al-Nufus,” by Abu Abdillah ibn Ahmad al-Bija’i.
Imam Al-Ghazali’s Ihya Uloom Al-Din also has a section in the chapter on marriage on how best to have sex
For more: شـرح كـتـاب الـنـكـاح، كـتـاب يـبـحـث في الـزواج و مـرغـبـاتـه و شـروطـه ، كـمـا يـشـرح فـتـاوى ابن تـيـمـيـة فيـمـا يـخـتـص بـالـمـوضـوع ، و يـشـرح كـتـاب الـوشـاح في فـوائـد الـنـكـاح لـلـسـيـوطـي
this shows that the scholars paid attention to these matters as they form one of the most crucial factors in one’s married life. Learning about this for the right intentions is often rewarded [such as one who does so to satisfy their husband or wife etc]
via The Final Revelation
23 May at 18:42 ·
روى ابن حبان في صحيحه (4032) وأحمد في مسنده (1448) عن سعد بن أبي وقاص رضي الله عنه عن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال : ( أربع من السعادة : المرأة الصالحة ، والمسكن الواسع ، والجار الصالح ، والمركب الهنيء ، وأربع من الشقاوة : الجار السوء ، والمرأة السوء ، والمسكن الضيق ، والمركب السوء ) وصححه الألباني في “الصحيحة” (282
It was narrated by Ibn Hibbaan in his Saheeh (4032) and Ahmad in his Musnad (1448) from Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Four things are part of happiness: a righteous wife, a spacious abode, a good neighbour and a comfortable mount. And four things are part of misery: a bad neighbour, a bad wife, a small abode and a bad mount.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in as-Saheehah (282)
Marriage in Islam is a contract where the rights and obligations can be mutually agreed as long as they are islamically acceptable.
“People always say that it’s not the woman’s responsibility to cook for everyone in her husband’s household or to take care of their husband’s parents. However, recently I was wondering if this mentality is a view created as a result of some influence from feminism. I wonder if even the learned amongst us have accepted this viewpoint without really critiquing it because of the influence feminism has had.
So for instance, Imaam al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) reported in his Saheeh that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: “My father died and left seven daughters, or nine daughters. I married a woman who had been previously married, and the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me, ‘Did you get married, O Jaabir?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He asked, ‘A virgin or a previously-married woman?’ I said, ‘A previously-married woman.’ He said, ‘Why not a young woman so you could play and joke with one another?’ I said, ‘ ‘Abd-Allaah [the father of Jaabir] has died and left behind daughters, and I would not like to bring them someone who is like them, so I got married to a woman who can take care of them.’ He said, ‘May Allaah bless you’ or ‘Fair enough.’” (Saheeh al-Bukhaari bi Sharh al-‘Asqallaani, vol.9/513).
“The evidence derived from the hadeeth of Jaabir is that al-Bukhaari introduced this hadeeth under the heading, “Baab ‘awn al-mar’ah zawjahaa fi waladih (Chapter: a woman helping her husband with his children)”.
This hadith surely shows that actually a wife taking care of others other than her husband is something that we shouldn’t discourage just like the nabi (saw) didn’t. So if a man marries a woman with the view that they can help look after others in his household, then we shouldn’t accuse the man of oppressing his wife because this is completely permissible in Islam. What I would say is that this shouldn’t be an expectation of the man. Therefore, men should inform their future spouse the requirements they expect of their spouse to fulfil and if the future potential spouse accepts these terms then there is no problem with this arrangement.
May Allah protect us from kufr ideas like feminism. Ameen
– Mohammed Ibn Ansaar
لمْ يُرَ للمتحابَّينِ مثلَ النكاحِ
The Prophet (saw) said, “There is nothing like marriage, for two who love one another.” [Ibn Majah]
#halal #love #nikah #marriage