When you think of your future spouse, what is the most important
quality you will be looking for?
For most Muslims, they always look for someone who is more
religious than they are. Why? Because they want them to help them
get into Al-Jannah Inshallah, which is something very normal and so
than they are in terms of religion and spirituality, this individual will
also be looking to someone who is higher than you.
than you are, at a higher level of spirituality, what do you expect this
Because you need to realize, are you attractive to the
person you want to attract yourself? Meaning, would you marry you?
attracted to them?
when it comes to external features such as beauty, certain body shapes
and so on.
nor religion will turn ugly as your relationship of marriage continues.
So try to be balanced in your search and if you see a sister that you
are attracted to but she is not drop dead gorgeous and her religion is
good, go for it and you won’t be disappointed inshallah.
4. Our final mistake is failing to communicate with your parents
about your marriage
This can come in two forms:
1) Not knowing how to communicate completely with your parents.
You don’t know how to talk to them about marriage
2) Delegating everything to your parents because you don’t even know
how to handle the subject of marriage.
On one occasion, a young man came and complained that his
parents are not cooperating with him and they are not really
listening to what he says about his marriage.
So he wanted to have some sort of endorsement to let
him just go through, without the approval of his parents.
them feel comfortable, understanding what exactly he is trying to aim to
in his pursuit for marriage. When it comes to families, parents come from
different backgrounds and each background and culture has a different
way to communicate. Some of them are conservatives, some are moderate,
and some of them are liberal.
a) Never try to enforce something on to your parents. Don’t
bring a girl that you have already been communicating with for 2
years or generally speaking you know the girls your parents will like
matters. Sometimes its hard but try. Tell your mom to help you find a
suitable wife and be part of the process.
has different hot buttons and soft buttons. So learn and master them.
So guys, try to keep your parents always involved. It will save you
time, effort and headaches in the end.
Atiq Nakrawala & Yaser Birjas
PRACTIMATE, 17304 Maurice Avenue, Cerritos, CA 90703, USA